Reasons Why Addicts Choose Drugs Over Family
When you are in a relationship with an addict or have an addict in your family, you may often wonder why they choose drugs over you.
When you are in a relationship with an addict or have an addict in your family, you may often wonder why they choose drugs over you. You will hear some say, “it’s me or the drugs.” Your thoughts may be, “how can this person lie and steal from me and still tell me they love me? How can they continue to do this to the people that love them most?” You can’t ever believe a word they say to you because their behavior says otherwise. You may tell them to stop! You aren’t being strong enough! Put the drugs down! Well, it’s not that simple.
The National Institute on Drug Abuse says:
Many people don’t understand why or how other people become addicted to drugs. They may mistakenly think that those who use drugs lack moral principles or willpower and that they could stop their drug use simply by choosing to. In reality, drug addiction is a complex disease, and quitting usually takes more than good intentions or a strong will. Drugs change the brain in ways that make quitting hard, even for those who want to. Fortunately, researchers know more than ever about how drugs affect the brain and have found treatments that can help people recover from drug addiction and lead productive lives. (NIH)
Addicts don’t ever choose drugs over their loved ones. Addiction is a disease and a complex disease that many don’t understand. It’s a family disease that destroys relationships all around you until the addicted individual decides it’s time to seek out professional help.
How Does Addiction Affect the Family Dynamic
Addiction is a disease characterized by drug use and drug-seeking that is compulsive and hard to control, despite harmful consequences. Initially, a person may choose to take a drug. Let’s say this is someone with underlying and untreated depression and anxiety. They take a drug that has been prescribed, that is addictive, or they try an illicit substance. This drug makes their anxiety and depression “better,” so they continue to use it. Unfortunately, repeated drug use can lead to changes in the brain that challenge the person’s self-control and interfere with their ability to resist extreme urges to continue using.
The individual realizes they have a problem, so they try to stop and start experiencing debilitating physical and psychological withdrawal symptoms. Sometimes the withdrawal symptoms are so severe that the person will go to any lengths to obtain more of the drug, so they don’t have to go through this. This is a cycle that often continues for years. At this point, the drugs will come before any people they love, their jobs, friends, kids, their goals and dreams, and their life! Fear prevents the addict from facing their addiction once and for all and getting the proper treatment.
What Can Family Do to Help Addicted Loved Ones?
It’s hard to love or be in a relationship with an addict. You stand there hopeless, not knowing what to do to help this person. You want to take their pain away, and you can’t.
The best thing you can do is learn as much as possible about the disease, educate yourself and attend support groups like Al-Anon. You have to set healthy boundaries to protect yourself. It is crucial to ensure that you are taking care of yourself and not focusing all your time trying to stop the addict from using. You can’t stop them from using it. The addict has to want to get help before the cycle stops. If they aren’t ready to stop, anything you say or do will likely not help. Interventions can work, but how you approach the addict is important. It will drive them to want to use more if they feel like they are being ganged up on or threatened.
Treatment for Substance Use Disorders
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